{"id":12200,"date":"2019-04-08T04:48:08","date_gmt":"2019-04-08T08:48:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/?p=12200"},"modified":"2019-10-13T09:28:24","modified_gmt":"2019-10-13T13:28:24","slug":"episode-315-david-shields","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/episode-315-david-shields","title":{"rendered":"Episode 315 – David Shields"},"content":{"rendered":"

Virtual Memories Show 315:
\nDavid Shields<\/a><\/p>\n

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“We’ll all be dead quite soon. This is our one chance to learn something about life on earth. I’m imbued with the question of, ‘Why all these masks?'”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"\"<\/a>With his new book, The Trouble with Men: Reflections on Sex, Love, Marriage, Porn, and Power<\/a>\"\" (Mad Creek Books), essayist David Shields<\/a> applies the literary microscope to his own marriage and explores — through a collage of perspectives — the subtle psychological game of S\/M it’s grown into over the decades. David & I get into the challenge of writing about his marriage without destroying it, what his family thinks of the book, whether he finds it funny to be blurbed as “the most honest writer alive”, his ‘nothing but epiphanies’ approach to the personal essay, the obsessive personae he adopts for his books and the influence of (two<\/a>–time<\/a> pod-guest) Phillip Lopate on his work. We also talk about the difference between vulnerability and weakness, the taboo about male submission, the limits of disclosure, the lessons of parenting, our mutual sports-fixation and our love for Ichiro, and plenty more! BONUS: My all-important advice about what not to do in your hotel room.\u00a0<\/em>Give it a listen!<\/a> And go buy The Trouble with Men: Reflections on Sex, Love, Marriage, Porn, and Power<\/a>\"\"!<\/p>\n

“I think a writer carves a swath through some part of their psyche, and phrases themselves as the whole world turning on this subject. That gives you a book.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n