{"id":17633,"date":"2025-07-15T17:09:35","date_gmt":"2025-07-15T21:09:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/?p=17633"},"modified":"2025-07-15T17:09:37","modified_gmt":"2025-07-15T21:09:37","slug":"episode-646-eulogy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/episode-646-eulogy","title":{"rendered":"Episode 646 &#8211; Eulogy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/traffic.libsyn.com\/secure\/virtualmemories\/Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Virtual Memories Show 646:<br \/>\nEulogy<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><div class=\"powerpress_player\" id=\"powerpress_player_3087\"><audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-17633-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/traffic.libsyn.com\/secure\/virtualmemories\/Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/traffic.libsyn.com\/secure\/virtualmemories\/Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3\">https:\/\/traffic.libsyn.com\/secure\/virtualmemories\/Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3<\/a><\/audio><\/div><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/traffic.libsyn.com\/secure\/virtualmemories\/Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/?powerpress_pinw=17633-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/traffic.libsyn.com\/secure\/virtualmemories\/Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3\">Download<\/a><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_subscribe_links\">Subscribe: <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4itPQhel9GzH3WK2iXr4Zw\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_spotify\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on Spotify\" rel=\"nofollow\">Spotify<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/tunein.com\/podcasts\/Interviews\/The-Virtual-Memories-Show-p1091071\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_tunein\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on TuneIn\" rel=\"nofollow\">TuneIn<\/a> | <a href=\"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/feed\/podcast\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_rss\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe via RSS\" rel=\"nofollow\">RSS<\/a> | <a href=\"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/subscribe-to-podcast\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_more\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"More\" rel=\"nofollow\">More<\/a><\/p>\n<p>No conversation this week, unless you count me talking to myself. I share some thoughts and memories about my father, who died last week at the age of 88 \u2014 or 87, depending on who he was lying to \u2014 along with the eulogy I gave at his funeral. <a href=\"https:\/\/traffic.libsyn.com\/secure\/virtualmemories\/Episode_646_-_Eulogy.mp3\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Give it a listen<\/a><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/YK2k9ncUP_M?si=HIGmsc9ErdYRReRA\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><iframe style=\"width: 100%; max-width: 660px; overflow: hidden; border-radius: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/embed.podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/episode-646-eulogy\/id531173075?i=1000717420101\" height=\"175\" frameborder=\"0\" sandbox=\"allow-forms allow-popups allow-same-origin allow-scripts allow-storage-access-by-user-activation allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/1CXRNg7mkmzkpuc1A7X8uj?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"352\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Lots of ways to follow <em>The Virtual Memories Show<\/em>: <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-virtual-memories-show\/id531173075\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">iTunes<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4itPQhel9GzH3WK2iXr4Zw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Spotify<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/bsky.app\/profile\/vmspod.bsky.social\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">BlueSky<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/vmspod\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Instagram<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCXoLbP-9GbhHJZpCQP5TR5A\/videos?view_as=subscriber\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">YouTube<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/virtualmemoriespodcast.tumblr.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Tumblr<\/a>, and <a href=\"http:\/\/virtualmemories.libsyn.com\/rss\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">good ol&#8217; RSS<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>About our Guest<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As I said last time I did <a href=\"https:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/episode-633-see-hear-speak\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a monologue about my father<\/a>, &#8220;Gil Roth is working through some things. Here\u2019s an <a href=\"https:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">About<\/a> page.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s Dad&#8217;s grave, a few days after the funeral<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"17634\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/episode-646-eulogy\/img_1241\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?fit=1920%2C2560\" data-orig-size=\"1920,2560\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;1.78&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 14 Pro&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1752513429&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;6.86&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;80&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.0082644628099174&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"IMG_1241\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?fit=465%2C620\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-17634\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241.jpeg?resize=465%2C620\" alt=\"\" width=\"465\" height=\"620\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?resize=465%2C620 465w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?resize=330%2C440 330w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C1024 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?resize=1152%2C1536 1152w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C2048 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?w=1920 1920w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_1241-scaled.jpeg?w=1050 1050w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 465px) 100vw, 465px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><em>Credits: This episode\u2019s music is <\/em>Fella<em>\u00a0by <a href=\"https:\/\/soundcloud.com\/may4th\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Hal Mayforth<\/a>, used with permission from\u00a0the artist. The monologue was recorded at Virtual Memories HQ on a <a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3cGZ1Em\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Heil PR-40 Dynamic Studio Recording Microphone<\/a> feeding into a <a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3Q9Br0z\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Zoom PodTrak P4<\/a>. Eulogy recorded on a <a href=\"https:\/\/zoomcorp.com\/en\/us\/handheld-recorders\/handheld-recorders\/h2n-handy-recorder\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Zoom H2n<\/a>. All processing and editing done in <a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3RwlQsW\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Adobe Audition CC<\/a>. Photos of my father &amp; his grave by me. It&#8217;s on my <a href=\"http:\/\/instagram.com\/vmspod\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">instagram<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Virtual Memories Show 646: Eulogy No conversation this week, unless you count me talking to myself. I share some thoughts and memories about my father, who died last week at the age of 88 \u2014 or 87, depending on who he was lying to \u2014 along with the eulogy I gave at his funeral. Give &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/episode-646-eulogy\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Episode 646 &#8211; Eulogy&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":17635,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"audio","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[22,1183,20],"tags":[7957,3171],"class_list":["post-17633","post","type-post","status-publish","format-audio","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-art","category-podcasts","category-religion","tag-andrey-roth","tag-gil-roth","post_format-post-format-audio"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/dad2025comp.jpg?fit=1883%2C800","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4C7K-4Ap","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3897,"url":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/good-night-sweet-captain-chaos","url_meta":{"origin":17633,"position":0},"title":"Good Night, Sweet Captain Chaos","author":"Gil","date":"May 5, 2009","format":false,"excerpt":"Dom DeLuise died at 75. 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No problem! It's time for another impromptu monologue episode: this time, Gil sorts through family legacies of the genetic and Larkinesque variety, as occasioned by taking his dad for cataract surgery and getting a call from an old & previously deceased\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Art&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Art","link":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/category\/art"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/seehearspeakcomp.jpg?fit=1200%2C480&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/seehearspeakcomp.jpg?fit=1200%2C480&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/seehearspeakcomp.jpg?fit=1200%2C480&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/seehearspeakcomp.jpg?fit=1200%2C480&resize=700%2C400 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/wp-content\/uploads\/seehearspeakcomp.jpg?fit=1200%2C480&resize=1050%2C600 3x"},"classes":[]},{"id":894,"url":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/long-last-love","url_meta":{"origin":17633,"position":3},"title":"Long Last Love","author":"Gil","date":"March 29, 2006","format":false,"excerpt":"Journalist and screenwriter Josh Friedman wrote a beautiful piece about his self-composed eulogy, necessitated by his recent cancer surgery: [W]e all know that there'll be a last time we do everything and that time and that day may be closer than we think. There's already things we've done for the\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;literature&quot;","block_context":{"text":"literature","link":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/category\/literature"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":14719,"url":"http:\/\/chimeraobscura.com\/vm\/episode-451-jacques-berlinerblau","url_meta":{"origin":17633,"position":4},"title":"Episode 451 &#8211; Jacques Berlinerblau","author":"Gil","date":"September 14, 2021","format":"audio","excerpt":"Virtual Memories Show 451: Jacques Berlinerblau \"I think what's different about Roth is the wink and the nod and the game; he's signaling to us in his fiction that he's writing about events and people that are very close to him, and yet repeatedly denied doing so. 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